On a freezing cold day in 2009, Angela Kaufman was crossing a busy city street when she was hit by a car.  The impact knocked her out, broke her collarbone and seven ribs, which popped a lung.  Later she learned she had also suffered a brain injury.

Angela describes the accident “as the best thing that’s ever happened to me. It’s worked out by getting me on a path where I’m meant to be.”

She didn’t think so at the time, however.  With her life and health in turmoil, she struggled to get back to normal.

When she regained consciousness after the accident, she couldn’t see anything, but could hear the sounds from the street and feel the sun on her face. She remembers wondering how it had so quickly become summer. Someone told her that she’d been hit, and she asked if she was going to end up in a wheelchair.  “Not likely,” the stranger said.   Only in her mid-twenties at the time, she thought, “What’s going to happen to my sex life if I’m in a wheelchair? Oh my God, what does this mean?”

She had the presence of mind to give the stranger the name and number of her boyfriend, who is a nurse. He’ll make everything better, she thought and then blacked out.

When she woke up, she was in the ER.  Everything was blurry, as if she was looking through a fuzzy viewfinder. Her injuries were painful but not life threatening. Even amid the pain and confusion of the moment, all she really cared about was getting back to work, to her office, to her life.

The day of the accident, Angela had been making her usual fieldwork rounds as a social worker for the Assertive Community Treatment (ACT) team in Albany, NY. She describes herself as a “social work cowboy,” doing whatever had to be done to keep her clients stable in a non-clinic setting.

It was the start of the recession and programs were getting cut, so she decided to take the bus—to get some exercise, reduce her carbon footprint, and save the county a little gas money.

She was in a good place in her life: a solid job, a great partner and new friends, and a new home that she’d lived in for just a year.  Life was an adventure and she was loving every bit of it.

“I thought my life plan had worked out pretty darn good.”

What Now?

Before her accident, being smart was Angela’s identity—she was the kid who got excellent grades and loved reading, learning, and working hard.  And that didn’t let up after the accident; within one week, she was calling her boss from her hospital bed, offering to cover calls.  She was grateful she was going to survive, but she was yearning for normal.

But that became an elusive goal.  About three months after the accident, she began noticing signs that she wasn’t completely healthy.  A mental fogginess had set in, along with an inability to understand what others were saying to her.  She’d go to work on Monday mornings feeling fine; by the afternoon, she’d start feeling fuzzy.  By Wednesday afternoon, it was as if co-workers were speaking in a foreign language. She had ringing in her ears and when she called the doctor’s office, she could not understand anything the administrative person was saying.  It seemed to her that she could no longer understand English.

After struggling for a few weeks, Angela consulted a neurologist and discovered she was suffering from post-concussive syndrome.  Turns out, mild brain injury was the cause of her mental fogginess and difficulty relating to others. During the emergency room treatment for the accident, no one had explained how her head injury would heal, and Angela had jumped back into her work life before she had recovered.

Brain injuries are slow to heal, and even more difficult to know how to heal.  “I’m really stubborn,” Angela said, “and I didn’t do myself any favors by working so hard.” She changed jobs after experiencing a lot of trauma being on the road and feeling uncomfortable driving others around.  She went back to her old job, but it was so stressful that her health suffered even more.

By this time, she was feeling bitter, depressed, and angry at the world.

She had a recurrent dream of being guided out of the social work field through exits and fire escapes.

“I just knew I had to follow it.”

Listening to Intuition

Angela slowly moved forward. In 2012, she reduced her hours at work after being assessed and treated for the brain injury.  Working full time would only hinder her healing process.

A few years before she had started a Tarot card reading business, and now she turned her attention to it. She thought of it as a “fun little job” that would balance her income as she phased out of social work.

“What I thought my life had been building up to didn’t look like it was going to pan out, and it was a really dark time for me. I believed there was a reason for all of this, but it was really frustrating and scary financially. Here I was with a master’s degree making less money than I did in high school.”

She’d always been interested in the metaphysical and spiritual, even from a young age.   When she was 14, her uncle gave her a deck of Tarot cards. She’d occasionally experiment with it, but didn’t really know how to use it.  She started receiving intuitive flickers and experiencing precognition where she’d dream about something and then it would happen.  But she could never make it happen on demand.

Her Tarot reading side business started taking off.  She delved into intuitive practice in 2013, taking courses with the Holistic Studies Institute in Albany, where she learned to listen to her intuition and embrace another aspect of herself.

Acting on her intuition created small changes; gradually, she learned to just let go of her previous plans for her life, which led to a significant transformation.

In 2014, she began working with a business coach. Her aha moment came when she realized relationship issues were the biggest problem women wanted guidance on.   She began offering programs and services as a Relationship Intuitive Consultant.

“I looked at my own path, my work in human services, in social work. I used to really struggle with relationships, so I had to look at the role I was playing in that. I began changing my energy and patterns to attract a wonderful partner,” Angela said.

“I was finally realizing that my life was not going to go back to what it was before. I needed to change to something new, and as I was discovering and creating this process that I could share with others. It didn’t come together all at once. I had to do a lot of work on my thought processes,” she said.

She slowly recovered from her brain injury by resting and allowing herself the time to heal.  This rest period blended very well with her intuitive development work, in which “resting, meditating, and slowing down is part of the process.”

All the inner work she was doing helped her understand that she was connecting with her spirit guides and being guided toward a new path. Her guides were showing her that even though she had relied on books and courses in the past, now she “was going to get a lot of information by going inside. So it wasn’t wasted time to rest, I was still working. That was a big part of the transformation for me was to honor the other.”

Becoming an Entrepreneur

Angela never thought she’d start her own business.  Looking back, she sees that being open to learning and working with great coaches has helped guide her through the process.  And becoming an entrepreneur was not as scary as she imagined it would be.

Her advice?  Listen to your intuition, be in alignment with your energy and those you’re connecting with, be open minded to other ways of doing things, and periodically check in with your big goal to make sure you’re on the right track.

As a Relationship Intuitive Consultant, Angela guides women at different stages in their relationships and helps them align with their core strengths. “If we define ourselves by our labels,” Angela says, “then when something goes wrong, it screws up our plans. We feel totally lost because we don’t know where are other strengths are. When we define ourselves by one label—mother, wife, teacher—we exclude ourselves from anything else we’d be good at.”

Her four-month coaching program begins with an intuitive reading to show her clients what’s going on behind the scenes in their relationships.  She saw from her coaching that many women wanted to define their life purpose and to understand where they were heading. In response, she created the Inner Queens system that uses spiritual guidance as well as coaching to help women achieve their potential.

The Inner Queens system uses the Tarot and focuses on identifying the four aspects of the Self, or four aspects of personality or specific characters in one’s life. These aspects represent the four keys to empowerment.  They are the powers of creative vision, passion, love/emotions, and abundance.

The two-month program helps clients uncover their core strengths which they can use to improve their relationships.  The program provides individual coaching, group workshops or classes, a self-study kit, with a workbook, meditations, and journaling.  She also offers Ladies Night for the Enlightened Woman.

Immediately, she saw her clients trusting themselves more and honoring their intuitive voice as they made changes.  By understanding themselves, they could better understand the power struggles within a relationship and have a clearer sense of how the energy exchange was working and what they could do about it.

She also sees her clients feeling more confident and more involved in life. They experience their relationships on a better level.  “Sometimes it’s harmony and happiness and making peace and sometimes it’s bringing up conversations without running away or getting defensive,” Angela says.  “It opens up a huge new door in her relationships in terms of healing.”

Angela believes that it takes faith to keep moving forward, no matter how dark the times are along your path.  Although she had no idea what her life would look like, what was going to be on the other side, she always felt there was a purpose and that something good was going to come out of the accident.

Listening to her intuition was the key to guiding her toward the rewarding path she is on now. “You don’t have to know what it’s going to look like when you’re going through transformation,” she says. “It’s really scary to get through. Find support.  It helps validate what you’re going through.”

 

Angela Kaufman is a Relationship Intuitive Consultant. Find out more about her programs here.

 

Karen Knowles is a freelance writer and book coach who specializes in success stories and personal transformation. Contact Karen here.